Bring Something to the Table

EP2: If They Wanted To, They Would

This episode of “Bring Something to the Table” kicks off with unexpected comedy as Shelby's dog decides to make a noisy cameo, setting the mood for a session of raw, unfiltered conversation on cosmetic procedures, relationships, and personal growth.
 
The duo shares personal stories about their experiences with cosmetic treatments like Dysport and fillers. They open up about the pains, the gains, and the judgments they face, sharing their reasons for choosing these enhancements and the importance of doing what feels right for oneself. It's a candid discussion on the pressures of looking good in a society that often values appearance over authenticity.
 
Tackling relationships, Shelby challenges this often-heard piece of relationship advice: “If they want to, they will.” She argues that it is overly simplistic and lacks empathy. Together, they unpack how this phrase can lead to judgment and withdrawal in relationships, emphasizing the importance of continuous communication and deeper empathy in relationships. They touch on how understanding each other's love languages can shape stronger connections.
 
As they reflect on personal growth, Shelby and Leslie delve into the power of standing up for one's beliefs and choices. Inspired by Glennon Doyle's insights in “Untamed,” they discuss how expressing oneself honestly can act as a natural filter, highlighting the importance of not disappointing oneself to please others.
 
Shelby and Leslie share a heartfelt reminder about the beauty of life's messiness and the value of shared experiences. They encourage embracing the chaos, connecting authentically, and assure us that there’s always room at the table!
 
Quotes
“Your love language might be an act of service, but somebody might not know how to do that because they like gifts, for example. But if the person's evolved enough, then they will understand that. And they want to do that for you because that makes you feel loved. It's a warm reciprocal relationship at that point. If you don't know your love languages, that's an important thing to think about.” (15:04 | Leslie Beck & Shelby Anderson)
“You take things personally, but this person doesn't know how to receive your love because you're giving it in a way that they don't need. They need it in a different way and you just have to talk about it. But that takes time. Like a 25-year-old is not necessarily going to be able to know and express that even maybe at 27. I know. I was drunk in my twenties. I was drunk most of my twenties and so self-absorbed, but not in a way that was conducive to personal growth.” (16:24 | Shelby Anderson & Leslie Beck)
“If they're not going to contact you after a date, then you don't want that person in your life. If they wanted to, then they would make the effort. In a relationship, your partner can't cover all the buckets. That's why we have different friendships.” (23:08 | Leslie Beck)
“We're learning that the people that we pleased, the people that we made ourselves uncomfortable to make them comfortable, we're now learning those aren't the people we want in our lives. And when we do speak our truth, they go away. So it's like they're not bringing anything to the table. We don't always bring stuff to the table, but we're trying to be more aware of that. Yes, I think that's true. I think it is finding our own truth. Because when you are constantly giving pieces of yourself away to please other people, you have health issues. You don't like yourself, you feel this anxiety, your truth is missing, and you can feel it in your heart.” (29:52 | Shelby Anderson & Leslie Beck) 
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EP1: The Imperfect Art of Manifestation

Can a twenty-year age gap between friends enrich your life? Shelby and Leslie think so, and they're here to prove it in the debut episode of 'Bring Something to the Table.' Broadcasting straight from Denver, these friends explore the interplay of joy, wisdom, and the unexpected twists of life.
 
Shelby shares the story of her 2022 move to Denver, a fresh start that also marked the beginning of a significant friendship with Leslie. They delve into their experiences of pursuing dreams versus grappling with reality. Both hosts champion the importance of authenticity and accepting imperfections, in podcasting and otherwise. They candidly discuss their career choices, the pressures of societal definitions of success, and why climbing the corporate ladder doesn’t always align with finding personal fulfillment.
 
One idea this pair believes in? Manifestation. Both women emphasize how important it is to have clarity and sincerity in setting one’s goals and making them happen. Leslie recounts finding a partner who truly matches her needs, while Shelby brings humor to the table with a tale of a quirky misadventure involving a neighbor. They reflect on how our desires and ambitions can shift dramatically as we age.
 
Touching on the challenges of modern dating, Shelby considers re-entering the dating app scene for a bit of fun, while Leslie shares insights from her previous relationships, underscoring the necessity of clear communication.
 
Shelby and Leslie are just getting started on their podcasting journey, and they can't wait to bring more stories, laughs, and real talk to you. Make sure to subscribe to the show for your regular dose of connection—there’s always room at the table!
 
Quotes
“Wherever you're allocating your power, your brainpower, and your energy, both consciously and subconsciously, you're working toward it.” (08:41 | Leslie Beck)
“Figuring out what you truly want, I think, is the biggest step. And we're not taught that.” (11:01 | Shelby Anderson)
“It's impossible to know what you want to do. We should be growing and evolving. That's the same thing with manifestation. At 25, you want to visualize your home or you want a certain car or take a trip to India or whatever it might be. And then at 30, you revamp it to your new manifestation of what you want. You're always growing and evolving.” (11:38 | Leslie Beck) 
“I think that [if you’re] being your best, healthiest, authentic self, you can be your best self for other people and be there for them, supporting them and [you’ll] attract more of those like-minded people into your life.” (12:39 | Leslie Beck)
“What we're here to do is to show that things aren't perfect, but you can still thrive and look good and be happy and attract those same kinds of people, even though your hair's a mess or something, or your foot's asleep.” (15:02  | Shelby Anderson) 
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Bring Something to the Table - Trailer

Welcome to "Bring Something to the Table," a Denver-based podcast where hosts Leslie Beck and Shelby Anderson, with their dynamic 20-year age gap, dive into spirited conversations about friendships, personal growth, love, and the chaos of life. This engaging show blends laughter with candid revelations and yes, the occasional tequila talk.  
 
Our episodes cover a variety of topics; from intuition, vulnerability, and resilience, to ghosts of relationships past, and our quest for the city's best margarita or latte. We keep it real and relatable, celebrating the messiness of life and the beauty of our shared experiences.
 
"Bring Something to the Table" is where tough topics meet humor and heart.  Whether you're navigating friendships or personal challenges, we're here to remind you that you are not alone. This is a community for both Millennials seeking their place in the world, and Gen Xers embarking on new adventures.  So grab your favorite drink and join us for stories, insights and wisdom born from genuine friendship and know that you'll always have a seat at our table.